About us


Look, we know online dating is frustrating, difficult, and makes you want to bang your head against the wall. Been there (still there, let's be honest). Yet, we keep doing it because we either don't have time to go out every night to bars to look for someone, or we have friends with online success stories that make us think we can find someone too. 

Any of these sound familiar?

  • "How do I know if the guy in the picture is the one I'm talking to?"
  • "Something seems off about this guy. Wish I could run a quick background check on him."
  • "He said something when we were texting that made me think he's been in trouble before, but I don't know how to find out the truth."
  • "I really like this guy! I just want to make sure everything checks out before I meet him."
  • "He says he's from my city, but he doesn't seem to know anything about it. Am I being catfished?"
  • "I really like him, but he's probably going to turn out to be a serial killer."

I'm sure you have your own, but I've personally said each of these before about a guy I've met online. I didn't know where to go to get the information I needed, and just searching for them online left me with more questions than answers. 

Then I became a private investigator, and suddenly I had access to the information I needed. I started running background checks before I went on dates. Then my friends started asking me to do it for them, and I realized there were probably a lot of women out there who would like access to the same background information just to feel a little more secure about the person they're talking to or meeting. I decided to make this site to give other women the same peace of mind. We've gotta stick together, right?

That's what Red Flags and Tea is - your "ride or die" in the dating world. The 12th man on the field. Someone who's got your back.